How would you define this video?
I don't know the story behind this, but i would describe it as an unhealthy relationship.
If we consider them as a couple, they seem like two people in a cage constantly battling each other, who can but do not make any effort to escape it. It's exactly what happens in relationships where couples are totally dependent on each other. They cannot stay joyously with each other but are too afraid to let go because they've never thought of separation as a happy possibility. Even if one makes attempt, the other would not let go. Thus they're left in cages forever that they build for themselves.
These kind of unhealthy relationships are often the of result of people's own insecurities. When people start considering themselves failed personalities and become completely dependent on somebody else for all their psychological and emotional needs, they cannot let that person go even when it's harmful for both of them to stay together. It's not right to drag back a person when you know you yourself are not growing as an individual.
Relationships are meant for two people to stay happy together. If there's no happiness, what's the point of the relationship in the first place? Being in a relationship should in no way hinder individual growth. After all, if individuals won't grow, how would the relationship grow? If things become stagnant, one can never see himself/herself happy in the long run. Soon he/she will get sick even at the sight of the other but would not want them to go.
It destroys two lives forever. There is no happy ending in such relationships. There is no ending at all. They are just stuck together in these undesirable situations where it is difficult to even bear each other. It's not called love when you cannot let a person go. It just suggests that you need that person to fulfill your psychological needs. You cannot destroy another person's life because of your own issues. In the end, either one of them would manage to gather strength and run away, or they'll both stay caged forever.
PS: This is not the original message of the video, just my personal interpretation.
It's definitely better to let go off him/her in a relationship if either of them isn't happy together.
ReplyDeleteI mean why carry something on for a long time when eventually you're gonna build a feeling of hatred or resentment towards each other.
That's what all(or most) relationships are like.
They are supposed to sink.
Pretty ironic they are called relationSHIPS
On the contrary, how do you let go off a person?
It's never easy to break a heart(unless you're a heartless and condoscending prick and you have mastered the art).
One can't just forget about all the time they have spent together, all the stuff they have been through, one they have been head over heels for, just like that and truthfully they are not even supposed to.
It gets pretty traumatic to even think about spending a day without their counterpart when they have been in the same boat for a long time to ack like a jerk out of nowhere and break their heart without having a care in the world.
I get your point though.
If one's not feeling compatible in the relationship , they should man up, give an explanation which they rightfully owe and get on with their life ASAP to save the misery in the long run.
In the meantime, nice blog there :)
I am no psychologist, but I feel these kind of relationships need much more than moving on. The cause, of such insecure behaviour needs to be cured first. Without that, the person who is behaving like that won't ever let the other person go, forget moving on.
DeleteThankyou.
their *lives ._.
ReplyDelete*doesn't matter* ._.
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